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FAQS for Retreat Attendees

FAQs for Attendees

1.     Is this just for couples who have big problems?

No, quite the contrary. This is for couples who want to better adjust to normal challenges and otherwise capitalize on their strengths to enhance their relationship. Couples who face severe challenges may well benefit and we do offer some support for those seeking some extra attention, but this is mainly to just make your good relationship a little better.

2.     Do we have to share about our relationship with other people?

No, you never have to talk about your couple's particular situation with other couples. We arrange it so partners can just talk with each other freely. However, you may well find out how common certain challenges are and want to compare notes with other couples on your own.

3.     Will there be a lot of lectures?

No. Talks are short. Mostly there are fun exercises for you to do. Because whatever you practice and share together is what you will gain the most from, the emphasis is on doing, not listening. 

4.     Is this like a Divine Principle seminar?

There are no theological presentations or lengthy lectures. And the setting is meant to be comfortable, not monastic.

5.     Are my spouse and I going to have some time just to ourselves?

Yes! Saturday afternoon is a long break after lunch to do something fun--there is kayaking and other activities and you can just walk on the beach. Also, there is a fun date night on Saturday night.

6.     Can I bring our children?

Sorry, but we don't have the resources to care for children during the weekend. Besides, you and your spouse need a break from parenting and just focus on strengthening your "parenting team." Please look for someone to care for your kids while you're gone--maybe you can trade weekends with another couple.

7.     My spouse is not very religious; will they be uncomfortable coming?

No. Apart from a few faith references here and there, it is not a religion-oriented weekend.

8.     Is this sponsored by the Church?

No, it is an independent initiative funded by a blessed couple.

9.     Can we leave on Saturday afternoon to visit an old friend nearby?

You can do whatever you like--we have no "workshop police" to make sure couples stick to the schedule. However, we recommend that you try to immerse yourself in the activities to get the most benefit for your marriage. But you must be the judge of the best use of your time to enhance your relationship.

10.                        Why is it so expensive?

Venues like this are quite expensive, and the Project wants to extend the endowment fund as far as possible to make it available to as many couples as we can. It is a tremendous value for the asking price, though we understand that many couples have little extra money for this.

11.                         Why is it so inexpensive?

The donors behind BMP want to give this well-deserved vacation to many precious blessed couples. We hope that those who can pay more will do so, to extend the endowment. But we want as many as possible to attend and enjoy themselves.

12.                        Do we have to attend everything?

No; you are free to do whatever you want to improve your relationship. Again, no one will be knocking on doors and checking to see that everyone is in a scheduled event. Do what you choose to enhance your marriage--you are welcome to enjoy a little lovemaking in your room instead of a presentation!

Frequently asked questions from Retreat Attendees

 

1.    Is this just for couples who have big problems?

No, quite the contrary. This is for couples who want to better adjust to normal challenges and otherwise capitalize on their strengths to enhance their relationship. Couples who face severe challenges may well benefit (some spouses confided that it saved their marriages) and we do offer some support for those seeking some extra attention, but this is mainly to just make your good relationship even better.

2.    Do we have to share about our relationship with other people?

No, you never have to talk about your couple's particular situation with other couples. We arrange it so partners can just talk with each other freely. However, you may well find out how common certain challenges are and want to compare notes with other couples on your own.

3.    Will there be a lot of lectures?

No. Talks are pretty short. Mostly there are fun and interesting exercises for you to do. Because whatever you practice and share together is what you will gain the most from, the emphasis is on doing, not listening. 

4.    Is this like a Divine Principle seminar?

There are no theological presentations or lengthy lectures. And the setting is meant to be comfortable, not monastic.

5.    Are my spouse and I going to have some time just to ourselves?

Yes! Saturday afternoon is a long break after lunch to do something fun--there are various activity options, or you can just go for a walk. Also, Saturday evening is free and we encourage you to have a date together.

6.    Can I bring our children?

Sorry, but our staff cannot care for children during the weekend. Besides, you and your spouse need a break from parenting and just focus on strengthening your "parenting team." Please look for someone to care for your kids while you're gone--maybe you can trade weekends with another couple. On the other hand, local church communities are sometimes able to make arrangements for childcare.

An infant in arms may be an exception. Ask our staff.

7.    My spouse is not very religious; will they be uncomfortable coming?

No. Apart from a few faith references here and there, it is not a religion-oriented weekend.

8.    Is this sponsored by the Church?

No, it is an independent initiative funded by a Blessed couple.

9.    Why is it so expensive?

Quality venues with sufficient amenities are quite costly, and the Project wants to extend the endowment fund as far as possible to make it available to as many couples as we can. It is a tremendous value for the asking price, though we understand that many couples have little extra money for this.

10.   Why is it so inexpensive?

The donors behind BMP want to give this well-deserved and valuable experience to many precious Blessed couples. We hope that those who can pay more will do so, to extend the endowment. But we want as many as possible to attend and enjoy themselves.

11.   Can we leave on Saturday afternoon to visit an old friend nearby?

We have no "workshop police" to make sure couples stick to the schedule. However, the donors have generously subsidized this program with the hope that all guests will invest themselves in it. We do request that you try to immerse yourself in the activities to get the most benefit for your marriage and especially that you attend the Saturday presentations for the benefit of all the attendees. Otherwise, of course, you must be the judge of the best use of your time to enhance your relationship. There is complete flexibility in the use of your time on Saturday evening and after the retreat ends on Sunday afternoon.

12.   Do we have to attend everything?

Again, no one will be knocking on doors and checking to see that everyone is in a scheduled event. We do ask that you attend most of the main sessions on Saturday, for the sake of the energy of the group. But please do what will enhance your marriage--you are welcome to enjoy a little lovemaking in your room on Sunday instead of a breakout!

13.   I want to go but my spouse doesn't. What can I do?

Spouses tend to be wary of situations where others may side with their mate against them on points of disagreement. And let's face it--how often we want to have our spouse read a book or go to a program, saying "you need to read this or go to this," because we hope the material will "fix" our spouse and prove that they are wrong! The very fact that you want to attend means that you think the program looks inviting to you, which may mean it "agrees" with you in your perennial complaints against your spouse. Understandably, your mate wants nothing to do with this.

This is particularly true of reluctant husbands. Often the wife has all kinds of complaints and suggestions to improve the marriage, and the husband is uncomfortable with these topics and may already feel "outgunned" by his wife's superior emotional and verbal skills. Why would he want to spend a weekend where he imagines being ganged up on, confronted by his limitations and feeling constantly inadequate? (They can be reassured that other spouses are reluctant too, and we try to make everyone feel respected and comfortable from the very beginning.)

Also, Asian spouses tend to be unfamiliar with this type of format and many can't imagine its value. They fear it to be either guilt-provoking lectures or embarrassing public discussion of private family matters.  (Of course, it is neither.)

There are no easy antidotes, but compassion and respect go a long way. It's ideal of someone they know is attending so they can talk with them, or if other attendees can stand up in church and publicly explain why they are going. In any case, your spouse's freedom of choice has to be respected. If you can genuinely allow them to refuse your request to come without your punishing them in some way, this unconditional respect may attract them to attend with you in the end.

If your mate refuses, then perhaps you could ask our staff about attending alone and helping the staff in some way. This can still benefit your marriage indirectly.